Marriage Books

Marriage Books

We asked the Parents List to offer their favorite marriage books and some people came through! The following list is not “vetted” by this blog’s editor (me, Rod), it is just a bunch of loving friends offering what they know. Many of these books/podcasts are not written from an explicitly Christian viewpoint. So understand that — you’ll have to discern what is best for you. We will keep updating as more titles are offered.

Book title/link to Goodreads review (year published)
Author — person suggesting the book

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts (2014)
Gary Chapman — Liz Wise, Christine Mumbauer

Boundaries in Marriage (2002)  
Henry Cloud, John Townsend — Ashley Holland

Not Your Parents’ Marriage:Bold Partnership for a New Generation  (2006)
Jerome and Kellie Daley — Caz Tod

Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace (2001)
Laura Doyle — Rebecca Puchalsky

The 7 principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert (2000)  
John Gottman, Nan Silver — Joel McIntosh, Christine Mumbauer

And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives (2007)
John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman — Art Bucher

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples (2005)
Harville Hendrix — Gwen White, Alison Wear, Art Bucher, Ben White

Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide (1993)
Harville Hendrix — Katie Michels

The Emotionally Unavailable Man/Woman: A Blueprint for Healing (2004)
Patti Henry — Aubrey White

The Happiest Life: Seven Gifts and Seven Givers and the Secret to Genuine Success (2014)
Hugh Hewitt — Aubrey White

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (2008) / Created for Connection: The “Hold Me Tight” Guide for Christian Couples (2016)
Sue  Johnson — Gwen White

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find — and Keep — Love  (2010)
Amir Levine and Rachel Heller — Danielle Collins

Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up (2012)
Harriet Lerner — Aubrey White

The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate  (2002)
Harriet Lerner — Aubrey White

The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships (2005)
Harriet Lerner — Aubrey White

It Takes Two: The Joy of Intimate Marriage (1998)
Andrew D. Lester, Judith L. Lester — Art Bucher

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It: Finding Love Beyond Words  (2007)
Patricia Love, Steven Stosny — Liz Wise

The Power of a Praying Husband (2014)
Stormie Omartian — Yaron Pickens

Saving your Marriage before it Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before and after You Marry (1995)
Les and Leslie Parrott — Rebecca Puchalsky

Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic (2006)
Esther Perel — Gwen White

Very married: Field Notes on Love and Fidelity (2016)
Katherine Willis Pershey — Martha Grace, Ben White, Aubrey White

Podcast: Stay Married podcast
Tony and Michelle Peterson — Danielle Ziegler

Lila (2014)
Marilynne Robinson (a novel) — Ben White

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (2003)
Marshall Rosenberg — Ben White

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships (2009)
David Schnarch — Liz Wise

Forgiveness: How to make peace with our past and get on with your life. (1991)
Sidney B. Simon — Ellen Zolkos

Happiness For Two: 75 Secrets for Finding More Joy Together (2007)
Alexandra Stoddard — Christina Kelvas

The Good Marriage: How & Why Love Lasts (1996)  
Judith S. Wallerstein & Sandra Blakeslee — Danielle Ziegler

As for Me and My House: Crafting Your Marriage to Last (2001)
Walter Wangerin, Jr. — Aubrey White

The Breath of Peace (2013)
Penelope Wilcock (a novel) — Ben White